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Unpopular Opinion

How to be yourself without ruining your life.

Has the “be yourself” pendulum swung too far?

Advice to be yourself and not care about what other people think is great until you find yourself with few friends and a go-nowhere job. Heck, you may even find yourself at the center of a viral news piece or on the no-fly list.

What’s driving your choices?

Human behavior is seldom uncomplicated. It’s the ego that drives just about all your actions and decisions. That means personality, and the choices you make, are the result of drivers like fear, insecurities, and past experiences.

It takes work to get to the root of your motives, and…


Even if you weren’t born with a silver spoon in your mouth, you can give your kids these two lifetime advantages.

Even if you weren’t born with a silver spoon in your mouth, you can give your kids these two lifetime advantages.

You have big dreams for your kids. You want them to have the things you didn’t have when you were growing up. You want them to be happy, healthy, and successful.

You can give your children a ticket to a rich life, and you don’t have to be from a wealthy family to do it. You also don’t have to obsess over the best preschool, designer clothes, or an obscene number of toys and gadgets.

The two tips I’ll cover here don’t often make the lists of trendy success tips, but ignoring these crucial foundational basics is like trying to…


You’ll have everything you need for today.

Give us this day our daily bread.

Many will recognize these words from what’s called “The Lord’s Prayer”. It’s just one part of a prayer that’s simple, yet it encoumpasses all our human needs.

It’s easy to take a commonly known piece of scripture and recite it without really digging down enough to know it and live it.

Give us this day our daily bread. Matthew 6:11

You’ll have everything you need for today.

I don’t read or recite the line as a pleading for what I need today. I read it as an assurance that the loving source that created and sustains us all will provide exactly what we need for today.

It’s…


A whole month just for us, and not one of those short, cheated months either.

Well women, looks like this is our month. A whole month just for us, and not one of those short, cheated months either. We get a full 31 days.

One week in and I’m tired of hearing about strong women. Yes I said it.

I’m tired of hearing about strong women because of course women are strong.

We’re strong the same way any living thing on this planet is strong. You’re strong or you die. The evidence that women are strong is that humanity still exists.

Women are made even stronger by the circumstances of our societies.

Women have to do twice as much to get half the credit. We have…


Speak truth to it instead.

I’m gradually coming out of that delicious sleep that only happens shortly before waking.

“What time is it?” I ask.
“Almost 7:00”
answers my hubs.
“Oh wow, the darkness fools me.”
I reply.

The sun rises late in our region of the world.

“The darkness fools me.”

In my barely wakeful state, I think, “Wow, isn’t this a true statement for life? The darkness fools us.”

It was dark in my bedroom, and still quite dim outside, but at nearly 7:00 am, we were well into the morning. …


Book Review

The Bassoon King: My Life in Art, Faith, and Idiocy ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

I just finished listening to the audiobook The Bassoon King: My Life in Art, Faith, and Idiocy by Rainn Wilson. I expected the book to be entertaining, as it’s written by the actor who played Dwight Schrute in The Office. It never let me down.

By the end, the book captivated me to the degree that I’ll spend my day writing this review and encouraging you to read it too.


F.I.T. Functional Imagery Training

Adapted from the course: Harness the Power of Your Thought to Think Yourself Thin.

Part 1. The F.I.T. (Functional Imagery Training) Method of Visualization

Functional Imagery Training (or FIT for short) is the cool technique that researchers used that led to participants losing, on average 13 pounds. Let me go over the basics with you.

First, It involves Exploration:

Or in other words, What do you want to achieve and what are the motivations behind it? You’ll pick a well defined goal. Some examples are:

  • I’d like to lose 10 pounds
  • I’d like to start taking yoga twice a week again
  • I’d like to cut out all eating past 8…


A global pandemic, economic uncertainty, political insurrection. Are you finding it hard to feel happy these days? Try these 3 free and easy happiness hacks.

A global pandemic, economic uncertainty, political insurrection. Are you finding it hard to feel happy these days? Try these 3 free and easy happiness hacks.

These tips are inspired by the book Happy Ever After by the author.

1. Let Your Inner Child Out to Play

You may have lost touch with it, but trust me, it’s still in there — your inner child. Have you ignored it and pushed it aside? After all, life is busy and you’re a responsible adult now.

In the 1970s, Eric Berne wrote about a theory he named Transactional Analysis. He reported that we all have a parent part, an adult part…


Hey there,

I hardly know where to begin, so I’ll just type this as if we were sitting down together for coffee.

Wow, what a week. Are you doing okay?

Whether you live in the US or not, the graphic violence and alarming hate on display in the US Capitol last week probably shook you up. I doubt anyone escaped experiencing it in some way.

It’s been hard for me to take my eyes and ears off the news, even though that’s the exact advice I would give my clients and readers. …

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