Editor of Change Your Mind Change Your Life. I wrote a book to help you be happy. Get yours at www.happyeverafter.info

Speak truth to it instead.

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I’m gradually coming out of that delicious sleep that only happens shortly before waking.

“What time is it?” I ask.
“Almost 7:00”
answers my hubs.
“Oh wow, the darkness fools me.”
I reply.

The sun rises late in our region of the world.

“The darkness fools me.”

In my barely wakeful state, I think, “Wow, isn’t this a true statement for life? The darkness fools us.”

It was dark in my bedroom, and still quite dim outside, but at nearly 7:00 am, we were well into the morning. …


Book Review

The Bassoon King: My Life in Art, Faith, and Idiocy ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

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I just finished listening to the audiobook The Bassoon King: My Life in Art, Faith, and Idiocy by Rainn Wilson. I expected the book to be entertaining, as it’s written by the actor who played Dwight Schrute in The Office. It never let me down.

By the end, the book captivated me to the degree that I’ll spend my day writing this review and encouraging you to read it too.


F.I.T. Functional Imagery Training

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Adapted from the course: Harness the Power of Your Thought to Think Yourself Thin.

Part 1. The F.I.T. (Functional Imagery Training) Method of Visualization

Functional Imagery Training (or FIT for short) is the cool technique that researchers used that led to participants losing, on average 13 pounds. Let me go over the basics with you.

First, It involves Exploration:

Or in other words, What do you want to achieve and what are the motivations behind it? You’ll pick a well defined goal. Some examples are:

  • I’d like to lose 10 pounds
  • I’d like to start taking yoga twice a week again
  • I’d like to cut out all eating past 8…


A global pandemic, economic uncertainty, political insurrection. Are you finding it hard to feel happy these days? Try these 3 free and easy happiness hacks.

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A global pandemic, economic uncertainty, political insurrection. Are you finding it hard to feel happy these days? Try these 3 free and easy happiness hacks.

These tips are inspired by the book Happy Ever After by the author.

1. Let Your Inner Child Out to Play

You may have lost touch with it, but trust me, it’s still in there — your inner child. Have you ignored it and pushed it aside? After all, life is busy and you’re a responsible adult now.

In the 1970s, Eric Berne wrote about a theory he named Transactional Analysis. He reported that we all have a parent part, an adult part…


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Hey there,

I hardly know where to begin, so I’ll just type this as if we were sitting down together for coffee.

Wow, what a week. Are you doing okay?

Whether you live in the US or not, the graphic violence and alarming hate on display in the US Capitol last week probably shook you up. I doubt anyone escaped experiencing it in some way.

It’s been hard for me to take my eyes and ears off the news, even though that’s the exact advice I would give my clients and readers. …


Regain your emotional footing by magnifying the good.

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I struggled the past week to not drown in anger, frustration, and despair. I’ve been navigating the balance between acknowledging my painful emotions and maintaining some inner peace and wellbeing.

When the ugly forces of the human ego scream as loudly as they did this week, it can feel like they drown out the truth. That’s when you have to take concrete action to part its veil and see humanity’s true spiritual nature.

Here are three stories that inspired me the past few days, followed by some mindset steps you can take to gain your emotional footing when the news…


It’s the little things that protect you from slipping.

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It’s easy to think an event or a person put you in a bad mood, but that’s taking the easy way out.

“The most courageous decision that you can make each day is to be in a good mood.” -Voltaire

What really happens when something triggers a bad mood?

A bad mood is nothing more than an indicator that you let your thoughts and habits slip. It’s your check engine light glowing at you from the dash.

Little by little, your reserves became depleted. When reserves are depleted, they system breaks down.

It seems like a sudden, isolated incident put you in your lousy state, but that’s never the…


2021 will only be a great year if you make it great.

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open source from pixabay.com

2020 was tough. We’ll all be glad when it’s behind us. Now for reality: 2021 isn’t going to magically be a great year. That doesn’t mean it can’t be a great year, but without putting your mind to it, 2021 isn’t going to be any better.

Don’t let it catch you by surprise.

Right now, take a realistic assessment of your life. Give yourself an honest rating. On a scale of 0–10, how do you rate the following pillars of your life?

Relationships
Finances
Career
Physical Health
Mental/Emotional Health
Spiritual Health
Hobbies/Fun/Recreation
Social Connectedness

Rate yourself without judgement. If it helps, pretend you’re a neutral observer looking…


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Maybe.

Look, most self improvement posts are well meaning. They can help people learn, overcome, grow, heal, or improve. Those are noble aims.

But, there’s a problem with them.

Frequently and eagerly reading them can lead you down the path of believing that something about you isn’t good enough.

After all, even the term self improvement implies that you aren’t good enough.

I’m an optimist, and I firmly believe that continued growth is crucial for a rich life. Heck, most of my posts here fall into the self improvement category.

There’s a fine line to walk though. That’s why I’m careful to curate the content here to be supportive and uplifting.

“Read short and uplifting articles here to help you…

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